As a speaker and trainer, people
often approach me after one of my programs to tell me how
excited they are about the strategies they have learned
and how they plan to put these ideas into action. When I
connect with these people later on and ask how the techniques
are working for them, I usually get answers such as “I
really planned to use them but then things got so crazy
that I never had the chance.” or “I tried them
once and wasn’t successful so I gave up.”
Success, like anything else, takes application and practice.
Anyone who plays a sport or has achieved expertise in any
skill knows that it doesn’t happen the first time.
They learn what to do and then apply it over and over again
until it becomes easy and natural for them. They would never
think of expecting to improve if they didn’t apply
what they had learned. However, they think different rules
apply to success strategies.
If you want to make a change in your life or career, you
must work with positive ideas until you can apply them effortlessly.
They need to become part of your operating system. The following
tips can help you do this more easily.
- Work On One Thing At A Time
– Often people want to change many things
and they try to do it all at the same time. This can be
overwhelming. Choose one idea and work with it until you
gain mastery. Then you can work with another idea until
you are successful with it and so on. In this way you
can make changes without a lot of stress.
- Determine What The Benefit Will
Be To You – It’s great to want to change,
but if you aren’t aware of how you are going to
benefit as a result of the change, it is easy to get discouraged.
How will achieving this change make your life better?
What value will it bring to you? It is much easier to
stay motivated when you have the answers to these questions.
- Recognize That You Might Initially
Feel Uncomfortable – Sometimes people give
up working with a new idea because it feels uncomfortable.
They don’t want to deal with these negative feelings.
Any time you try something new it feels awkward. This
is a temporary situation. As you work with the new idea
it will begin to feel more natural for you. It is all
part of the learning process.
- Commit To Using The Ideas For
30 Days – It is very easy to give up if you
don’t achieve instantaneous success. Make a commitment
to apply the idea consistently for 30 days. If something
happens to interrupt the process, then start again with
your 30-day commitment. If you make the commitment at
the beginning of the process, you are more likely to achieve
your goal.
- Appreciate Your Successes –
As you work with the new idea, recognize your successes.
Maybe you are trying to deal more effectively with stress.
Congratulate yourself when you remember to breathe deeply
when you feel your stress starting to increase. When we
recognize our small successes it helps us achieve bigger
successes.
- Be Patient With Yourself –
Don’t be self critical if you find yourself
occasionally falling back into old patterns. You have
been operating in that manner for years. It is going to
take time before you fully integrate the new idea into
your life. As you work with it on a consistent basis,
you will find that you revert to old patterns less and
less frequently.
Like anything of value that we achieve in life, success
takes practice. Make a commitment to put in the practice
time that is required so you can experience the wonderful
rewards that success brings. |